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Robin Radcliffe

Dear Robin,

A friend came to me last week with this problem. She is presently married but still loves another. She said that she is trying to set things right with her relationship with God and will not leave the husband that she is currently with. Her question is this: How does she distinguish between what God is telling her to do and what she wants to do? I don't know how to help her with this at all.

Dear Reader,

If your friend is asking God what to do then it sounds like to me that she hasn't made a solid

decision for herself. More often than not, we want others to make the difficult decisions for us. It helps us not to take responsibility for the consequences. But there are certain questions she can ask herself first.

1. Does the choice deal with a want or a need?

2. Which is the higher law?

3. Which has higher priority?

4. What are the alternatives/ consequences?

We can ask Spirit/God if He/She has an opinion but expect that sometimes it won't matter. I feel the key is to build a relationship with Spirit such that when we do make decisions we can receive confirmation along the way. I have learned that complete honesty is imperative in asking our questions. The Heavens cannot open for us with prayerful answers if we are not totally honest with ourselves. There is no fooling the Spirit!

When I make a decision, I ask for confirmation and then I listen very carefully. When the decision is right action, I feel a calmness or a stillness within me. When it is not, worry and confusion continues.

Please remind your friend that her relationship with God is a partnership. I don't think God has any desire to tell us what to do. He wants us to learn to govern for ourselves with His loving guidance.

I hope this helps and Thank you for writing.